Having an affair with a married man is nothing to take lightly.
Yes, it’s true that if you find yourself having affairs with married men, you may be excited by the prospect of a future with that man.
However, it’s important to stay grounded in reality and to remember that affairs with married men are going to get complicated in a hurry, especially if you’re interested in taking the relationship to the next level. Here are 3 things you should know when having an affair with a man.
1. You’re not going to change his mind.
If you are thinking about changing his mind about your relationship with him, for instance, if you want him to leave his wife, then you are probably barking up the wrong tree.
What you need to do is give him space and remember that it’s called an affair for a reason. Now of course, men leave their wives all the time for other women, but the point is this: you can’t force him to do so, and if you do force him, he may resent you for it. A man needs his space and needs to come to the decision on his own. If you two are truly meant to be together then it will be. So relax and have a good time.
2. He does have a wife.
In other words, there are other people involved in this affair, and there is not much you can do about it. If he has children this obviously creates further complications, however if you’re in love with a married man, you need to understand that if he does not love his wife, he probably still cares about her, and he certainly loves his children, so be weary. Don’t home-wrecker unless you are both on the same page.
Affairs with married men are always complicated and it’s because of the other people inadvertently involved that make this so. Always remember that he has a wife, friends and family that are separate from you. What you do to him, will affect them as well.
3. If things are getting dramatic, get out.
If he has said he is going to leave his wife over twenty times and keeps feeding you lies, it’s not likely to work out. It’s not that every man that cheats on his wife isn’t a good person, sometimes people simply fall in love.
However you can’t rule out the possibility that the man you’re having an affair with is a big-fat-liar. And if he is lying to you don’t be surprised.
But remember that you do have options:
The first and most obvious is that you should get out of the affair as soon as possible. Do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars, just get out of the relationship and move on.
If you have a habit of dating married men then there is not much that can be done for you. What is meant here is that you like unavailable men.
However if you can, try dating someone who doesn’t have a wife and kids and see how it feels. Who knows, you just might like the drama-free relationship. Affairs with married men are never simple, but if you take deep breaths and remember the three rules above, you should be okay.